It’s lonely being a twin mum

Heyyyyyy guys hope you are all well. So first of all being a mum is one of them most rewarding and beautiful thing that can happen to a woman, carrying a human being and giving birth to it is the biggest blessing we woman can ever have. Being a mum can be a lonely time especially in the first year when they are still little. When you first have your baby everyone is visiting you, helping and wanting to carry that tiny, precious human but as time goes by people don’t come round or call as much to check on you, especially if you have friends who don’t have kids yet.

When i had my first born i was leaving in a place where i did not know anyone so i was really lonely and i kept myself indoors most of the time till hubby came home and we would go out for a walk or something.  For my second pregnancy we had moved near my family so i had support but i also did not want to feel like burden for them so i decided to try the mother and baby play groups to try and make some new friends as we were still new to this area and boy i was wrong. I felt so alienated that i only managed to go a few times and never went back. When i first walked in i got the smirky smiles from some mums and that’s was it so i found a spot and got some toys for my boy to play with and we were not even their for a an hour and i just wanted to leave. It felt like i was back in secondary school where everyone had their own gang of friends and nobody wanted to know me or be my friend.

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I actually tried another group and it was the same and having spoken to some of my friends i found out it wasn’t just me who experienced this kind of behavior. I really don’t know why  we women feel the need to put down another woman to feel good about ourselves especially when your a new mum it’s a trying time and need all the help and mum friends you can find.

Since i had the twins i decided i would not go to the mum baby groups because of the experience i had and also because i have 2 babies to watch which will be difficult and over whelming. For example if i wanted to take them to a massage class i would not be able to do it as i only have two hands ans what if they both started crying then everyone would be staring at me. The only time i went to any mum group was when i first went to take the twins to be weighed, i only went a few times and most of the time they cried because they did not want to be naked or cold bless em but there was a health visitor who would take one while i sorted one and she has become a goof friend of mine and because she know the struggle i have with getting them weighed she comes to my house to this day to weigh them which am so grateful for.

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I will forever by grateful for these twin babies but it doesn’t mean it’s not difficult. When i go to pick my son from school with them ( this is somewhat the only times i take them out by myself) i get anxious and scared thinking they might both start crying and i won’t be able to cope, sometimes people just stare which used to bother me but i know they are just in awe of me having two babies. I used to talk to my friends at the school gate for about 20 minutes or so but i don’t really do this anymore, i just drop my son off and am back home till pick up. I have actually tried to find twin baby groups in my area but there seems to not be any which is not nice.

I know this time when they are little goes by so fast and am taking it in as much as i can but i wish i knew some twin mums that i can hang out with and not have to be stuck indoors all the time.

Are you a twin or multiple mum?  how did you meet other twin mums?

Love Me x

Allowing yourself to change

Heyyyyy guys so i have been MIA for a abit because i have had alot going on, those who don’t know i have two 9 months old twins who keep me busy but one has not been well so i had to concentrate on my baby.

So during this unplanned little break i started thinking about how i can make my vlogs and blog posts better because am all about change and providing good content.

So my vlog channel was started because i wanted to record my family life and share it with the world and i have done this for the last 3 years now but since the twins were born i don’t venture out much by myself because it’s not easy being out with two 9 months babies so i normally just drop my older children to school and get back home which doesn’t leave much to vlog.

My blog has always been about fashion, beauty and lifestyle which i loved and enjoyed doing but i wanted to focus on topics am really passionate about and i have decided to focus on fashion (specifically affordable fashion) as am a sucker for it lol and lifestyle which includes motivation posts because we all need a little push and motivational words sometimes.

I will be doing OOTD posts but they will not all be new garments but more of how i have put my day outfit together which will also be on my YouTube channel, am not sure about how often i will be uploading but i will work on it as i go.

I am excited about the new direction of my blog/vlog and i hope you don’t mind the new change and you will continue to enjoy the content.

Love Me x

8 tips on how to enjoy Notting Hill Carnival

So Notting Hill carnival is happening this weekend and it’s the biggest street party in Europe so everyone turns up even people fly in just for it so it’s kind of a big deal. There are those who are attending the event for the first time and so they don’t know what to expect or know the area so these tips are to help them out and make sure they have a safe, funfilled time.

1. Wear the right shoes

Ok so I know we girls like to look all cute and fab and we should but at this carnival, leave the heels at home and the sandals, I learnt the hard way. First of all the journey from where the carnival starts to where it finishes is so long! And then you have people stepping all over your feet….. it’s just not worth putting your feet through that pain because trust me those heels will not stay on for long unless your going to take a pair of trainers too then you go girl lol.

2. Plan your journey

If this is your first time you might want to start your journey abit early so you give yourself time to get there as some train station will be closed and also to try and avoid the massive queues at the stations due to the amount of people who will be travelling to the carnival. I would also say not to drive because you will not find parking and you don’t want to leave with parking ticket after having such a good time.

3. Have your essentials

Make sure your have pocket tissues as the loos might run out of it, actually no they WILL run out of it. Don’t forget your money and try to avoid taking your bank cards and just take cash instead as it’s safer and finding a cash machine will be an issue and there will probably be queues of people using them.

Make sure you have a bottle of water to stay hydrated and also apply and take your sunscreen (hopefully the sun is out #Englandweather) and don’t forget to get the carnival route map so you know where your going.

4. Meet in advance

Make sure you meet your friends before the carnival starts because once it begins you will have a hard time finding each other as the flow of the crowd tends to go one way and some of the roads will be closed so going back will be difficult. Also make sure you have you phones with you incase you get separated and need to contact each other.

5. Get a good spot

This is where getting there early will help, if you want to see the parade in it’s full glory the best spot is near the judges. But if you want to get close to the parade and feel the vibe the best place is along the main route.

6. Eat the food

Omg you will be spoilt for choice because the amount of Caribbean food that will be there is going to be crazy. There will be Jerk chicken, rice and peas, patties, salt fish, goat curry…..so go hungry and ready to feast.

7. After parties

There are surely going to be alot of after parties once the carnival is done so if you still up for more check out this site for venues https://www.timeout.com/london/clubs/notting-hill-carnival-warm-up-and-after-parties (NOT SPONSORED)

8. STAY SAFE

And last but not least stay safe!, make sure you stay with your friends as there is safety in numbers, do not consume things you don’t know, stay alert and aware of pickpockets and if you feel worried or unsafe tell a police officers, they will be everywhere so you should not have an problem finding one.

I hope these tips are helpful and I hope you have a brilliant time at the Notting Hill Carnival 2018! Woahhhhh

Love Me x

Thank you for 50! Followers

Heyyyy guys I know this might seem small or unimportant to some people but I want to say thank you! to all those that follow my blog.

50 followers may seem small but not to me I don’t even think I have 50 friends lol. I have had my blog for 3 years this year and at one point I stopped posting content because I got de-motivated and disheartened because I was looking at other people’s following growing and mine wasn’t and I did not like it or think people were interested in what I had to say but I came back from having my twin babies more motivates than ever and I am putting in work and it’s paying off.

I am really gratefully for you guys because it tell’s me that my content is good and it’s helpfully to some people out there.

People keep saying that the blogging world is dead or dying but I don’t think it is, it’s just going through changes and am going to be one that sticks with it because I actually love doing it.

I love doing research into different topics and learning new things which am able to pass onto you.

Once again thank you guys for following my blog I really appreciate it, thank you for taking the time to read it and don’t forget to leave me a comment letting me know what you think of the content I produce and you can also share with your family and friends.

Love me x

Scared of failure

The fear of failure is something we all experience sometimes in our lives and it’s something non of us want to experience but we don’t get to chose if we get it or not, no matter how much we try and fight it if it’s going to happen it will happen.

If you fail sometime in your life whether it’s once or 100 times you have to remember to get back up and try again. You have to give yourself time to moan that failure, cry over it and figure out where you wenvt wrong then get back up and push on.

Failure is apart of life and it’s something we work hard to never experience but it’s there to stop us if we are about to make a mistake and it forces us to start again. We will never understand failure in the beginning because we are so angry and upset but when we succeed and look back we are thankful for that failure because it taught us something.

During my university studies I failed one of my modules and I had to do it all over again before continuing to my second year. It was an exam and I am so rubbish at revising as I can’t seem to be able to recall what I have crammed so when I had to resit it I had to attend class all over again and I was so angry as it was holiday time.

But what surprised me is that
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BABY WRAP

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For both my eldest children I have always used the “traditional” baby carrier which am sure every one knows, if you don’t know this is a carrier you wear on your chest which you put the baby in securely and so your able to have your hand free to do whatever you want.

I have only used these carriers because they are the ones I was used to and was familiar with.

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Now with the twins I wanted something different from the norm and for a few years I seen the baby wrap being used by a lot of people. Now am gonna lie, at first I though how can you carry a baby in that flimsy looking cloth? it did not look safe to me or strong compared to the ones I had used before and the fact that it was used from the front just made me feel quite uncomfortable and scared for the babies I saw being carried in them.

I know in a lot of if not all African countries many mothers carry their babies on the back using a large clothes to secure them tightly and they are able to literally do everything with their baby tied to their back. From gardening, to planting crops, to washing clothes, to fetching water etc they do it all and I take my hat off for them because I don’t think I could what they do.

So after seeing so many women using this flimsy cloth as I called it ( its not actually flimsy its very strong) I decided to give it a go though my partner decided to stick to the traditional one.

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The instructions that came with it did not make sense yet the pictures kinda did so instead of making mistakes I went to my trusted source YouTube and I was able to learn how to tie which was very easy though I thought it would be hard. I can take you I AM IN LOVE with this cloth! It is so soft, I love the grey colour am loving gray right now, its stretchy so the baby can sit securely in there and its also thin enough to use in summer so you wont get hot using it.

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I literally carried my son for almost an hour and a half and my back did not hurt, I was not hot and sweaty as it was hot that day, he was not uncomfortable, he was able to look around and also the closeness with him and me was so lovely and beautiful. I am definitely going to continue using it for as long as I can and need it and I will see how it works and manages when my boy is a little bit bigger.

Have you ever used this baby wrap? if so what did you think about it? did you love it or hate it? let me know in the comment section below.

Love Me x

“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS SUPERMOM. WE JUST DO THE BEST WE CAN”. What I have learnt since becoming a mother of 4.

So I am a mother of 4! wow! that’s something am still getting my head around, there are days when it hits me and I just look at my children and just feel amazed and blessed that I was able to have four beautiful, healthy babies.

Its been three months since I had the twins and during that time I have come to learn a few things about having four children.

NOISE

Being in my house now days with my whole broad can be quite noisy. My first born is not too bad as she’s at the age where she is becoming independent (she’s 11) and she’s able to do quite a lot of things herself,  My second born is forever calling mummy (his 8) and now days he keeps saying he wished he would go back in my belly so his a baby and I can carry him lol. I love the age they are at as they are able to entertain themselves and they don’t need much adult supervision. Now there are times when the twins are crying and Faith and Jerome are feeling like being noisy and everyone is talking, the voices raise,it really sounds like a big group of people in a room yet in reality its 4 small people.

Some how I have learnt and adapted to having a noisy house and I have learnt to tune them out. Someone might ask how do you cope with that much commotion around you and its quite simple,as long as they are not fighting, its ok. For a little bit.

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Having children who are aged 11 and 8 is such a blessing when you have 2 twin babies. I kept thinking how am I going to be able to do things with two small babies? what if they both start crying? how do I feed two babies at the same time? so much was going through my head but again I adapted and I am able to do all these things and more by myself if I have to. The good thing is when the kids are home I am able to tell them to watch the babies for me, carry them when they cry or even feed them so I can get on with other things. This is when I know God knew what he was doing when he blessed us with the twins.

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ITS NOT HARD 

When I found out we were having twins I think I panicked inside, no one knew I was able to keep it to myself. All I kept thinking is how am I going to be able to do school runs, cook dinner, clean my house, get out of the house, get downstairs as we live in a 2 storey flat with no lift, get the pram downstairs ( this takes a group effort)……… I really  was worried and didn’t think I would be able to cope with everything but somehow everything slot into place.

I have been back to school runs for about two months now and we have a good routine in place and no one is late for school or work, I am able to carry the twins in their car seats to the car though it can be tricky at times as the corridors are a bit narrow. The pram situation is still the same as some one still needs to stay with the babies as I take the pram down so I only do that when the kids or my partner are home.

I am a pro at setting up the pram too which looked so huge when we first got it but now it looks kinda small lol.

PEOPLE WILL STARE

This is one thing that getting used to slowly. When we are out we get a lot of looks or the twins and their pram get a lot of looks, sometimes people actually stop us to have a look and a chat which is nice when your not in a rush, others just stare which actually gets on my nerves, others want to touch them and have a cuddle which I find uncomfortable and I don’t like it ( hence why I leave the hood on), others give you a little smile.

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I know its a miracle and an amazing thing to have twins and I get why people are stunned by them and we count our blessings that they are healthy and striving but one thing that I feel I need to be smart mouthed about is when people come up to us and say things like double trouble, unlucky you! ( the unlucky comment wasn’t to me but a friend), why would some one feel the right to tell a mother that? people sometimes speak without thinking how it will sound or make the other person feel.

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With all the above I would not change anything about my family situation, we are put in situations knowing we can handle them and we do. We just have to get over the inital shock and get on with it and before you know it you begin to wonder what the worry and fuss was about.

 

Love Me x

“MAKEUP IS SELF- CONFIDENCE APPLIED DIRECTLY TO THE FACE”

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Since I started wearing make up and taking care of my skin I have always been a minimal product usage kind of girl, I have never been the type to change my products or yoyo with different ones because the ones I used worked fine.

When I lived at home with my mum I always just used what she bought which was usually Vaseline lol. We use to use Vaseline for basically everything! from body to feet and of course on the lips. Since I got married I started testing out different beauty products because I wanted a change as I was grown and all lol and at one point I would have so many products which I would have used for only a couple times just sitting there collecting dust.

For the last few years I found the products that work for me and I have stuck to them and my skin has thanked me for that still working with minimal products.

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The one product I have religiously used continuously over many years now is the Garnier body intensive 7 days lotion in Shea butter. I have tried many body lotions trying to find one that worked for my body and they all would either make my skin dry like the dessert, oily or just look dead. But since I started using the Garnier lotion for very dry skin (though my body is not that dry) my skin is so soft and the softness lasts till the next day when I have a bath. It is also fast absorbing so you wont be there getting  a work out putting lotion on your body. Looking at the ingredients it contains Shea butter of course, water which is always great for your body, olive fruit oil, palm oil, mineral oil and many other ingredients but my point is having all these oils in one bottle has to make ones body soft and smooth.

For moisturing my face I use three products at the moment one is Nivea moisturising cream. Their main ingredients are Jojoba oil which is very moisturing and Vitamin E which helps with to protect cells ( I know I have gone all scientific lol). I use this cream at night before I go bed which helps keep my skin soft through out the night even in winter time when I wake up my skin still feels soft and looks dewy. The other product is B Restored day cream now I have only just started using this product not too long ago but let me tell you something, it is very mosturising and quite thick which I think is needed because weather seasons like winter and summer can make your skin drier than usual so you need something thick to add extra moisture. Lastly for my face I use Superdrug Optimum instant anti-wrinkle eye cream for under my eyes. I use it in the morning and evening and I have found that once I start rubbing it into my eye area I can see the lines reduce! which am not gonna lie I was skeptical if it would do anything ( am always skeptical with such things) but it done something so I will see if it will reduce the appearance of the lines more over time.

For washing my face I have been using Nip Fab exfoliate which has Glycolic and B. Revealed Glycolic cleansing peel. Both these products have Glycolic Acid in them which helps treat uneven skin,acne,oily skin etc. It basically does what it says on the tin, after using any of these products I can see and feel my skin is clean and no residue of dirt or makeup.

So as you see I really do not use a lot of products for my face or body but I don’t really think you need to use a lot of stuff on your skin, you just have to find what works for you and stick to it and your skin will thank you for it.

So what product do you swear by? let me know.

 

Love Me x

 

WHATS IN MY BAG?

Recently my bag seems to be getting heavier and heavier and turning into a baby bag instead of my personal hand bag. The babies have their own bag but I just find it so much easier to just throw thing in my bag and go. Now days I only take the babies bag if I am going to be out for a while which means I need the milk stuff which cant fit in my bag nor do I want them in my bag lol.

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I am going to let you into my bag and some of the things lurking in there. Firstly I have to have pampers and wipes because I can not afford to leave my house without them, I also carry the dummy container ( the one with the green cover) which I sometimes put some hot water just to keep them sterile. I also carry my note book all the time which I use a lot as when ever I have an idea for the blog or vlog I am able to quickly write it down before I forget. I also have my vlogging camera which I need to replace as this one has little space and the footage is not that good, a magazine is also needed as I need to keep up with whats going on in pop culture and fashion.

My make up bag which I have been using so much recently because am starting to enjoy dolling myself up. I get periods where I just cant be asked to plaster my face as it means I cant touch my face really and with the twins I feel I am forever trying to avoid or stop them from touching my face or it will end up on them but mummy has to stay on flick and presentable so we make it work lol.

I have quite a few thing in there but am sure you don’t want to hear all that’s in my bag but those are a few of the things in there and am sure I will be adding more lol.

Love Me x