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HOW TO ROCK EFFORDLESSLY AT BEING A MUM OF TWINS

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They will cry at the same time or take turns lol

So I dont know if this is with all twins or just mine but my two LITERALLY take turns crying if not together. One will cry while the other is calm looking around enjoying the scenery lol once they are finished the other starts off too and before you know they are both crying or taking turns.

When they were smaller I would carry them both and soothe them but now they are abit bigger and heavier it can be difficult to do this but what I have found helps me is as long as they are feed and pamper is clean I put them on their bellies and they tend to calm down because they love being on their tummies and they sleep on them too.

They might want to feed at the same time

For this one i have heard some wake up different times but mine since they were born they have woken up the same time if not just minutes apart. I think because they feed at the same time they end up getting hungry at the same time and its a routine now for them to wake up at the same time but I Have quite a few ways of feeding them and the most popular one is the pillow method which i find the easiest but you have to find what works for you.

You might survive on snacks

In the early day before I mastered multitasking with twins (still learning) I survived on snickers and toffee lattes! (Home made obviously coz I for one dont have that money to buy the amount of lattes I was drinking).

So in the morning I would just take a latte with me for school runs by the time I got back I had to put them down for a nap which would take me a while as I had to soothe them and feed them again so by the time I was done with that I had to sort dinner before picking the kids from school and hubby from work so I really did not have time to make anything to eat and so snickers did the job.

This was not good at all but my advice is to make something the night before even a quick sandwich and pop it in the fridge that would be better than what i was chomping on lol and dont forget their is Mcdonalds drive-thru 👌 I use that too so if all fails just go down good old Mcds.

You will learn to apply makeup in less than 10 minutes

I have always been a minimal makeup kinda of girl and I could do my makeup in about half and hour to 45 mins only because I would be dancing around, singing you know the usual things we girls do but now I dont have the luxury to do that 😩 so my make up literally take’s me 10 mins top to do and just about a handful of products.

If you know how to do your makeup well you will be able to down the time it take you to do it but if you dont you just have to practice and as you get your routine in place so you will with your makeup time.

Make time for you!

This is very important, you have to make time for YOU! you really have to even though its 10 mins away from those beautiful babies it will keep you sain and give you and you mind a break. Its very easy to just go go go because there is so much to do and so little time but you cant run on 100 24/7 because soon or later you will crash.

Taking a walk outside by yourself will do u a whole lot of goodness, going gym if thats what you want to do, go out with friends for a coffee….. anything as long as its baby free is good.

Its hard especially with two babies because you sometimes can’t catch a break and because its so full on but use those family and friends they are all there for you, dont be afraid to ask for help or be too proud or ashamed thinking they will think you are weak anyone who thinks that is obviously never been around babies or children and definitely should not be around your babies.

And last but not least, your not alone

Always remember there are lots of support groups that are there to help you, talk to your midwife or health visitor if things are getting too much for you don’t suffer in silence because being a mum to one is hard so imagine having two it will be hard at first but you will get into your own routine and you will be a master at running the show in no time.

Also when I was pregnant I found this twins group on Facebook which helped me massively with how I was feeling because they were either going through it or been through it and upto now if i have an issue or question any time day or night someone is always there to replay to my message or post because majority of times we are up feeding the babies lol. Just go on Facebook and type twin mum groups and they will come up.

I hope this post helped someone and feel free to message me with any questions or if you just want to have a chat twin mums or singletons all welcome.

How did you feel you coped when you first had your baby or babies?

What tips and tricks did you use?

Did you have enough help?

Let me know in the commnet section below

Love Me x

“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS SUPERMOM. WE JUST DO THE BEST WE CAN”. What I have learnt since becoming a mother of 4.

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So I am a mother of 4! wow! that’s something am still getting my head around, there are days when it hits me and I just look at my children and just feel amazed and blessed that I was able to have four beautiful, healthy babies.

Its been three months since I had the twins and during that time I have come to learn a few things about having four children.

NOISE

Being in my house now days with my whole broad can be quite noisy. My first born is not too bad as she’s at the age where she is becoming independent (she’s 11) and she’s able to do quite a lot of things herself,  My second born is forever calling mummy (his 8) and now days he keeps saying he wished he would go back in my belly so his a baby and I can carry him lol. I love the age they are at as they are able to entertain themselves and they don’t need much adult supervision. Now there are times when the twins are crying and Faith and Jerome are feeling like being noisy and everyone is talking, the voices raise,it really sounds like a big group of people in a room yet in reality its 4 small people.

Some how I have learnt and adapted to having a noisy house and I have learnt to tune them out. Someone might ask how do you cope with that much commotion around you and its quite simple,as long as they are not fighting, its ok. For a little bit.

HELP

Having children who are aged 11 and 8 is such a blessing when you have 2 twin babies. I kept thinking how am I going to be able to do things with two small babies? what if they both start crying? how do I feed two babies at the same time? so much was going through my head but again I adapted and I am able to do all these things and more by myself if I have to. The good thing is when the kids are home I am able to tell them to watch the babies for me, carry them when they cry or even feed them so I can get on with other things. This is when I know God knew what he was doing when he blessed us with the twins.

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ITS NOT HARD 

When I found out we were having twins I think I panicked inside, no one knew I was able to keep it to myself. All I kept thinking is how am I going to be able to do school runs, cook dinner, clean my house, get out of the house, get downstairs as we live in a 2 storey flat with no lift, get the pram downstairs ( this takes a group effort)……… I really  was worried and didn’t think I would be able to cope with everything but somehow everything slot into place.

I have been back to school runs for about two months now and we have a good routine in place and no one is late for school or work, I am able to carry the twins in their car seats to the car though it can be tricky at times as the corridors are a bit narrow. The pram situation is still the same as some one still needs to stay with the babies as I take the pram down so I only do that when the kids or my partner are home.

I am a pro at setting up the pram too which looked so huge when we first got it but now it looks kinda small lol.

PEOPLE WILL STARE

This is one thing that getting used to slowly. When we are out we get a lot of looks or the twins and their pram get a lot of looks, sometimes people actually stop us to have a look and a chat which is nice when your not in a rush, others just stare which actually gets on my nerves, others want to touch them and have a cuddle which I find uncomfortable and I don’t like it ( hence why I leave the hood on), others give you a little smile.

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I know its a miracle and an amazing thing to have twins and I get why people are stunned by them and we count our blessings that they are healthy and striving but one thing that I feel I need to be smart mouthed about is when people come up to us and say things like double trouble, unlucky you! ( the unlucky comment wasn’t to me but a friend), why would some one feel the right to tell a mother that? people sometimes speak without thinking how it will sound or make the other person feel.

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With all the above I would not change anything about my family situation, we are put in situations knowing we can handle them and we do. We just have to get over the inital shock and get on with it and before you know it you begin to wonder what the worry and fuss was about.

 

Love Me x

“IT ALWAYS SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE UNTIL ITS DONE” Nelson Mandela

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So lately I have been feeling some type of way, actually tell a lie lol this feeling has been with me for a hot minute. I have been vlogging my lifestyle coming to 3 years now and i feel I am in limbo sometimes. In the beginning I used to upload every week then I went up to twice a week and now since I had the twins I have not followed a set schedule because with new borns you can’t plan too much and when you do things don’t go to plan so I tend to upload whenever I get time to edit and do some work. Recently the channel has hit 102 subscribers which am grateful for but I feel like my channel is just stuck in one place and not going anywhere which demotivates me. We all have targets we want to achieve in life and I wanted my channel to be a bit more further along than where it is now.

Being that am a stay at home mum I thought this would have been a good way to make a little income ( which is not going as planned lol) as well as preserve some memories of our family life.

I feel like am doing something wrong or am not providing the right content which make me feel like vlogging is not for me. I watch a few lifestyle vloggers whose vlogs are on the same wave length as mine and their channels are doing brilliant and mine is just mehn. Some of them started the same time as me and some after me so its not like they have been doing it for 10 years and me 3.

I even sometimes think maybe its the camera am using which is a bit ridiculous or the editing software, though with the software( I use Adobe premiere elements) I find that most people use the Apple laptop editing one which seems way better than Adobe.

So please go watch a few of my vlogs and leave me some feedback below as to how I can improve and make the channel better and successful because at this point am at a lost end. I enjoy doing vlogs and I would like to continue doing them to share how my small world lives and goes through life’s ups and downs.

I look forwards to receiving your feedback.

Love Me X