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“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS SUPERMOM. WE JUST DO THE BEST WE CAN”. What I have learnt since becoming a mother of 4.

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So I am a mother of 4! wow! that’s something am still getting my head around, there are days when it hits me and I just look at my children and just feel amazed and blessed that I was able to have four beautiful, healthy babies.

Its been three months since I had the twins and during that time I have come to learn a few things about having four children.

NOISE

Being in my house now days with my whole broad can be quite noisy. My first born is not too bad as she’s at the age where she is becoming independent (she’s 11) and she’s able to do quite a lot of things herself,  My second born is forever calling mummy (his 8) and now days he keeps saying he wished he would go back in my belly so his a baby and I can carry him lol. I love the age they are at as they are able to entertain themselves and they don’t need much adult supervision. Now there are times when the twins are crying and Faith and Jerome are feeling like being noisy and everyone is talking, the voices raise,it really sounds like a big group of people in a room yet in reality its 4 small people.

Some how I have learnt and adapted to having a noisy house and I have learnt to tune them out. Someone might ask how do you cope with that much commotion around you and its quite simple,as long as they are not fighting, its ok. For a little bit.

HELP

Having children who are aged 11 and 8 is such a blessing when you have 2 twin babies. I kept thinking how am I going to be able to do things with two small babies? what if they both start crying? how do I feed two babies at the same time? so much was going through my head but again I adapted and I am able to do all these things and more by myself if I have to. The good thing is when the kids are home I am able to tell them to watch the babies for me, carry them when they cry or even feed them so I can get on with other things. This is when I know God knew what he was doing when he blessed us with the twins.

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ITS NOT HARD 

When I found out we were having twins I think I panicked inside, no one knew I was able to keep it to myself. All I kept thinking is how am I going to be able to do school runs, cook dinner, clean my house, get out of the house, get downstairs as we live in a 2 storey flat with no lift, get the pram downstairs ( this takes a group effort)……… I really  was worried and didn’t think I would be able to cope with everything but somehow everything slot into place.

I have been back to school runs for about two months now and we have a good routine in place and no one is late for school or work, I am able to carry the twins in their car seats to the car though it can be tricky at times as the corridors are a bit narrow. The pram situation is still the same as some one still needs to stay with the babies as I take the pram down so I only do that when the kids or my partner are home.

I am a pro at setting up the pram too which looked so huge when we first got it but now it looks kinda small lol.

PEOPLE WILL STARE

This is one thing that getting used to slowly. When we are out we get a lot of looks or the twins and their pram get a lot of looks, sometimes people actually stop us to have a look and a chat which is nice when your not in a rush, others just stare which actually gets on my nerves, others want to touch them and have a cuddle which I find uncomfortable and I don’t like it ( hence why I leave the hood on), others give you a little smile.

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I know its a miracle and an amazing thing to have twins and I get why people are stunned by them and we count our blessings that they are healthy and striving but one thing that I feel I need to be smart mouthed about is when people come up to us and say things like double trouble, unlucky you! ( the unlucky comment wasn’t to me but a friend), why would some one feel the right to tell a mother that? people sometimes speak without thinking how it will sound or make the other person feel.

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With all the above I would not change anything about my family situation, we are put in situations knowing we can handle them and we do. We just have to get over the inital shock and get on with it and before you know it you begin to wonder what the worry and fuss was about.

 

Love Me x

Going Through Changes

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Hey guys, so it’s been awhile since i have done a blog post and the last few months have been time i have taken to work out some life changes. I have not really posted on my social media platforms either which is quite different for me as am always posting something lol.

But i am hoping to get back to blogging ASAP though i might focus more on my lifestyle but we shall see. Onto a better note the kids have broken off for summer holidays (yes!!!) So happy as i don’t have to do school runs and be up at the break of dawn! Though i need to find places and ways to entertain these kids.

Oh my fifi (faith) has finished primary school this year and will be going to secondary school in September 😭😭😢. I just can’t get over her going to secondary school she’s still my litttle baby girl but i thank god for bringing her this far and now its a new chapter for her which am sure she will enjoy.

So thats some of the stuff that’s been going on in my household and i hope you all are having a brilliant summertime/break.

Love Me X

SHOULD I WORK OR BE A STAY AT HOME MUM??

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So since before I finished university I have been trying to work out how I can work as well as be there for children. The career I want to do is to do with planning and running events and since this kind of job includes long hours and weekends too, I have been finding it difficult to see how I can make it work. So with this in mind I have been trying to find a job which I can do around my children.

One of the jobs I have been looking at is working in a school as the holidays would be the same as well as finishing times. The issue with this is that such jobs are not many and they ask that you have experience working in an administration background or that you have worked in a school before which I haven’t.

So my dilemma is should I follow my dream job or should I just get a job which works around my children? this is one of the major issues we as parents or mothers face when it comes to working, especially in holidays when kids are off for weeks and  childcare costs are ridiculously expensive!.

So my job search and dilemma continues but am sure it will work out.

Moral of the story, we as parents cant always do what we want or follow our dreams. Once we have children we have to focus on them.

What are your views guys? and if your a working parent/parents how do you do it?

Love Me X

 

NOT “CELEBRATING” HALLOWEN ANYMORE!

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So Halloween is around the corner and everyone is talking about what they are going to wear and go as, now since I could remember I have always dressed up with my family and friends and went out trick or treating and since I have had kids they dress up in their costumes and we  take them out to trick or treat which they find fun. Now everyone feel a certain way about Halloween, some believe its against their beliefs or religion to celebrate it and other don’t care and feel its just good fun. For me I have been brought up in a Christian household and have always believed in Jesus or God but my mum was never the parent that told us not to enjoy Halloween and so we always done it every year.

Recently I had talked to the kids about not celebrating it to see what their opinions were about it and of course as children are they asked why? lol so Steve started explaining what Halloween stands for and how its against the Christian faith to celebrate it to my amazement the kids said they do not want to celebrate it no more!!!, I was like what? I was so gobsmacked and proud of them because I thought we were going to have a fight on our hand convincing and explaining why Christians should not celebrate it.

We are Christians and yes we celebrated Halloween but I don’t think that makes us bad people for doing that. I know a lot of Christian who would go crazy asking why we do it and why we would let our kids celebrate the day of the dead ( which being said in that context sound quite scary!) but at the end of the day if I  dressed up as Beyoncé or Michael Jackson, would you still say am celebrating the dead or just having fun? so is the question about the outfits that are worn or the actual day?

What are your thought guys? let me know in the comment below

P.S moral of the story is we have to try and listen to what our children think about different topics even though they are kids, they still have opinions and they should count.

Love Me X

HE CANT’T BREATH!!!!

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So I have MIA for a minute but I have been quite busy and being mummy. So Jerome has been having a rough few weeks, about 2 weeks ago i was called by the school that he was not feeling well and he could not breath!! now imagine hearing your baby could not breath!. ( prior to this about 3 weeks before he had a cold and was really stuffy to the point where he could not breath without waking himself up so I decided to sleep with him so I could keep an eye on him. I have never used albos and vicks in one night so much lol) So I rushed to pick him up and bless his little self his stomach and chest were literally moving up and down so much because he could not  breath and was struggling so I called the doctor to get an emergency appointment and to my surprise ( thinking about it now I was not surprised) they told me the next appointment they could give me was in 2 hours time!!! I was so pissed!!! I told them the boy cant breath and you want me to wait two hours??? i was so angry. At this point I called Steve to let him know whats going on and he left work to come with us to hospital.

So instead of waiting for my son to get worse I took him to A&E luckily it was not busy when we went in so they saw him quickly. They checked him and they said he might have asthma! or a viral infection, so they put him on a pump and oxygen to help him breath which started to help him. We were there for about 3 hours so Steve left to go pick up Faith form school. when we got discharged he was a lot better but you could still hear his breathing was raspy so they gave us a pump to use at home and was told to make an appointment to see our usual doctor for him to be diagnosed! which I felt was just one of the stupidest ideas, we were in a hospital!! why could they not diagnose him there??? anyway we went doctors and they said the same thing as the hospital that they thought it was asthma or viral infection (well duh tell me something new).

The doctor gave him antibiotic tablets to take for 3 days and a breath tester to see how strong his breathing is and we have been using that for the last few weeks and he seems to be back to normal ( thank God!). Motherhood can be so hard and scary but his on the mend. 🙂

Love Me X