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Thank you for 50! Followers

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Heyyyy guys I know this might seem small or unimportant to some people but I want to say thank you! to all those that follow my blog.

50 followers may seem small but not to me I don’t even think I have 50 friends lol. I have had my blog for 3 years this year and at one point I stopped posting content because I got de-motivated and disheartened because I was looking at other people’s following growing and mine wasn’t and I did not like it or think people were interested in what I had to say but I came back from having my twin babies more motivates than ever and I am putting in work and it’s paying off.

I am really gratefully for you guys because it tell’s me that my content is good and it’s helpfully to some people out there.

People keep saying that the blogging world is dead or dying but I don’t think it is, it’s just going through changes and am going to be one that sticks with it because I actually love doing it.

I love doing research into different topics and learning new things which am able to pass onto you.

Once again thank you guys for following my blog I really appreciate it, thank you for taking the time to read it and don’t forget to leave me a comment letting me know what you think of the content I produce and you can also share with your family and friends.

Love me x

The pressure to stay trendy in the fashion blogging world

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So I have been blogging for 2 years now and my topics range from parenthood to fashion to makeup/skincare. At one point I thought maybe I should focus on one niche as that’s what most bloggers do and advice you to do but I thought I don’t just like one thing, I like a number of things and would like to share my opinion on all that interest me. So I decided to pick a number of topics that I felt passionate about and make me me and these were parenthood as am a mum, fashion as I enjoy putting together outfits and getting all dressed up, and skincare, who doesn’t like to take care of their skin.

My first year of blogging was me being very excited to have a blog where I was able to express myself and do what I want, it was my little corner where I would pour out all my feelings and stress and leave it there, then I got pregnant with the twins and I slacked a bit because all I wanted to do was sleep as this pregnancy was taking it all out of me. But overt the last 4 months I decided to really work on my blogging and take it to the next level and so I started to look into ways to improve my topics and really think about what I wanted to share with the world.

I started to read and take interest in other blogs like mine and as much as I found them motivating, they also made me feel quite intimidated and started doubting myself If really this is something I should be doing or is it really for me and being a prayerful person I prayed about it and asked God to give me a sign if this career is for me because no matter how much you try if its not meant for you, its not for you. As I was looking through these blogs it seemed like I needed to have quite a lot of money in order to buy the latest fashion style because it seemed like they were always on point with the latest trends and someone like me can’t afford to be splashing the cash because I don’t have an extra disposable income. This made me think that maybe this is why I don’t have a big following because I cant afford the trendy stuff which demotivated me.

(NON SPONSORED) During my research I found this blogger called Marina De Giovanni who is a very successful blogger and business coach among other things. She wrote an e-book called “a lifestyle bloggers guide” which I bought skeptically but once I started reading it I quickly reached for my paper and pen because she was talking knowledge that I understood and not gibberish. She took it back to basic from setting up your blog site to your first blog post to finding a topic. This to me was a sign because once I finished the book I knew what to do and where to take my blog and I have been on a hype since then.

I have come to realize that fashion is what you make it, yes you should try and buy the latest fashion but if you cant, some of the new trends are the same ones that came out 5 years ago which means you probably have them in your wardrobe you just have to dust them off and put your own twist to it and your up to date.

But remember always stay true to your passion and what you love because this is you life and your career.

Love Me x

“THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS SUPERMOM. WE JUST DO THE BEST WE CAN”. What I have learnt since becoming a mother of 4.

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So I am a mother of 4! wow! that’s something am still getting my head around, there are days when it hits me and I just look at my children and just feel amazed and blessed that I was able to have four beautiful, healthy babies.

Its been three months since I had the twins and during that time I have come to learn a few things about having four children.

NOISE

Being in my house now days with my whole broad can be quite noisy. My first born is not too bad as she’s at the age where she is becoming independent (she’s 11) and she’s able to do quite a lot of things herself,  My second born is forever calling mummy (his 8) and now days he keeps saying he wished he would go back in my belly so his a baby and I can carry him lol. I love the age they are at as they are able to entertain themselves and they don’t need much adult supervision. Now there are times when the twins are crying and Faith and Jerome are feeling like being noisy and everyone is talking, the voices raise,it really sounds like a big group of people in a room yet in reality its 4 small people.

Some how I have learnt and adapted to having a noisy house and I have learnt to tune them out. Someone might ask how do you cope with that much commotion around you and its quite simple,as long as they are not fighting, its ok. For a little bit.

HELP

Having children who are aged 11 and 8 is such a blessing when you have 2 twin babies. I kept thinking how am I going to be able to do things with two small babies? what if they both start crying? how do I feed two babies at the same time? so much was going through my head but again I adapted and I am able to do all these things and more by myself if I have to. The good thing is when the kids are home I am able to tell them to watch the babies for me, carry them when they cry or even feed them so I can get on with other things. This is when I know God knew what he was doing when he blessed us with the twins.

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ITS NOT HARD 

When I found out we were having twins I think I panicked inside, no one knew I was able to keep it to myself. All I kept thinking is how am I going to be able to do school runs, cook dinner, clean my house, get out of the house, get downstairs as we live in a 2 storey flat with no lift, get the pram downstairs ( this takes a group effort)……… I really  was worried and didn’t think I would be able to cope with everything but somehow everything slot into place.

I have been back to school runs for about two months now and we have a good routine in place and no one is late for school or work, I am able to carry the twins in their car seats to the car though it can be tricky at times as the corridors are a bit narrow. The pram situation is still the same as some one still needs to stay with the babies as I take the pram down so I only do that when the kids or my partner are home.

I am a pro at setting up the pram too which looked so huge when we first got it but now it looks kinda small lol.

PEOPLE WILL STARE

This is one thing that getting used to slowly. When we are out we get a lot of looks or the twins and their pram get a lot of looks, sometimes people actually stop us to have a look and a chat which is nice when your not in a rush, others just stare which actually gets on my nerves, others want to touch them and have a cuddle which I find uncomfortable and I don’t like it ( hence why I leave the hood on), others give you a little smile.

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I know its a miracle and an amazing thing to have twins and I get why people are stunned by them and we count our blessings that they are healthy and striving but one thing that I feel I need to be smart mouthed about is when people come up to us and say things like double trouble, unlucky you! ( the unlucky comment wasn’t to me but a friend), why would some one feel the right to tell a mother that? people sometimes speak without thinking how it will sound or make the other person feel.

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With all the above I would not change anything about my family situation, we are put in situations knowing we can handle them and we do. We just have to get over the inital shock and get on with it and before you know it you begin to wonder what the worry and fuss was about.

 

Love Me x

“MAKEUP IS SELF- CONFIDENCE APPLIED DIRECTLY TO THE FACE”

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Since I started wearing make up and taking care of my skin I have always been a minimal product usage kind of girl, I have never been the type to change my products or yoyo with different ones because the ones I used worked fine.

When I lived at home with my mum I always just used what she bought which was usually Vaseline lol. We use to use Vaseline for basically everything! from body to feet and of course on the lips. Since I got married I started testing out different beauty products because I wanted a change as I was grown and all lol and at one point I would have so many products which I would have used for only a couple times just sitting there collecting dust.

For the last few years I found the products that work for me and I have stuck to them and my skin has thanked me for that still working with minimal products.

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The one product I have religiously used continuously over many years now is the Garnier body intensive 7 days lotion in Shea butter. I have tried many body lotions trying to find one that worked for my body and they all would either make my skin dry like the dessert, oily or just look dead. But since I started using the Garnier lotion for very dry skin (though my body is not that dry) my skin is so soft and the softness lasts till the next day when I have a bath. It is also fast absorbing so you wont be there getting  a work out putting lotion on your body. Looking at the ingredients it contains Shea butter of course, water which is always great for your body, olive fruit oil, palm oil, mineral oil and many other ingredients but my point is having all these oils in one bottle has to make ones body soft and smooth.

For moisturing my face I use three products at the moment one is Nivea moisturising cream. Their main ingredients are Jojoba oil which is very moisturing and Vitamin E which helps with to protect cells ( I know I have gone all scientific lol). I use this cream at night before I go bed which helps keep my skin soft through out the night even in winter time when I wake up my skin still feels soft and looks dewy. The other product is B Restored day cream now I have only just started using this product not too long ago but let me tell you something, it is very mosturising and quite thick which I think is needed because weather seasons like winter and summer can make your skin drier than usual so you need something thick to add extra moisture. Lastly for my face I use Superdrug Optimum instant anti-wrinkle eye cream for under my eyes. I use it in the morning and evening and I have found that once I start rubbing it into my eye area I can see the lines reduce! which am not gonna lie I was skeptical if it would do anything ( am always skeptical with such things) but it done something so I will see if it will reduce the appearance of the lines more over time.

For washing my face I have been using Nip Fab exfoliate which has Glycolic and B. Revealed Glycolic cleansing peel. Both these products have Glycolic Acid in them which helps treat uneven skin,acne,oily skin etc. It basically does what it says on the tin, after using any of these products I can see and feel my skin is clean and no residue of dirt or makeup.

So as you see I really do not use a lot of products for my face or body but I don’t really think you need to use a lot of stuff on your skin, you just have to find what works for you and stick to it and your skin will thank you for it.

So what product do you swear by? let me know.

 

Love Me x

 

“IT ALWAYS SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE UNTIL ITS DONE” Nelson Mandela

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So lately I have been feeling some type of way, actually tell a lie lol this feeling has been with me for a hot minute. I have been vlogging my lifestyle coming to 3 years now and i feel I am in limbo sometimes. In the beginning I used to upload every week then I went up to twice a week and now since I had the twins I have not followed a set schedule because with new borns you can’t plan too much and when you do things don’t go to plan so I tend to upload whenever I get time to edit and do some work. Recently the channel has hit 102 subscribers which am grateful for but I feel like my channel is just stuck in one place and not going anywhere which demotivates me. We all have targets we want to achieve in life and I wanted my channel to be a bit more further along than where it is now.

Being that am a stay at home mum I thought this would have been a good way to make a little income ( which is not going as planned lol) as well as preserve some memories of our family life.

I feel like am doing something wrong or am not providing the right content which make me feel like vlogging is not for me. I watch a few lifestyle vloggers whose vlogs are on the same wave length as mine and their channels are doing brilliant and mine is just mehn. Some of them started the same time as me and some after me so its not like they have been doing it for 10 years and me 3.

I even sometimes think maybe its the camera am using which is a bit ridiculous or the editing software, though with the software( I use Adobe premiere elements) I find that most people use the Apple laptop editing one which seems way better than Adobe.

So please go watch a few of my vlogs and leave me some feedback below as to how I can improve and make the channel better and successful because at this point am at a lost end. I enjoy doing vlogs and I would like to continue doing them to share how my small world lives and goes through life’s ups and downs.

I look forwards to receiving your feedback.

Love Me X

NEW ADDITION

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I would like to introduce our new bundles of joy, Mr Uriyah and Miss Bella born 7 weeks ago.

What a WOW!these last 7 weeks have been I still cant believe I carried twins and have twins! They are such a blessing. The delivery was full of heartache, happiness, sadness, tears….. I made a vlog about the delivery so go check it out as i will be here forever if I try to type it out lol. (Link 👉 https://youtu.be/U4I6uno8R5w) but that’s what I have been doing the last 7 weeks, taking care of these babas and trying to get in some kind of routine. I am also back to doing school runs which I was scared of doing as I was afraid the twins would end up both crying and I would not be able to soothe them (which they have done a couple of times lol) but l was able to handle it! 💪😏

Dont forget to check out the vlogs and follow us on our social medias to keep up to date with us.

Love Me X