FIVE ESSENTIAL GIFTS ALL NEW MUMS NEED

Becoming a mum is one of the most exciting times in a woman and its not surprise that when we find out we are going to be mothers we go out and start shopping for baby stuff especially clothes. We literally are like dogs off a leach because we want to buy everything that’s cute and adorable, all the clothes, shoes, toys etc all while our partners are worrying about the bank balance lol.

Its like the minute you find out your are pregnant everything that’s to do with babies you need to have them even those small tooth brushes which they don’t need yet, we got to have them lol. Although going on a shopping spree for the baby is well and good there some essentials that new mums need from the get go and these are.

WIPES

Wipes are one of the essentials that new mums need because these babies can really goes though wipes. When they are born they seem to poo almost every hour so there will be lots of wiping going on which mean you needs lot of wipes. So if you have a present list or your wondering what present to get the new mum, get them a box of wipes or two.

MUSLIN CLOTHS

I went through so many of these being that i had twins but these are so needed for burping. sometimes babies throw up and these are the perfect item to use for burping that way they are not sick on you or ruin your outfit. You can also use it as a scent cloth, so if your baby is the clingy type you can put the cloth on you for some time then put it near the baby and they will be able to smell you scent and think you are near them. my babies now use them as a comfort cloths so we are still using them.

NAPPIES

Nappies are on one of the top essentials which go hand in hand with wipes. When they are first born they use a lot of nappies  because they are still getting rid of that green poo but also because they feed a lot so they will have more wet nappies. So if you are wondering what to get the mum as a present, get them nappies which they will appreciate a lot.

BEING THERE FOR THEM 

When we first have a baby we might be nervous about how we are going to cope and how to look after the baby so in these first few weeks or days we will need help from our family and friends. Things like cleaning the house, looking after the baby so the mum can get some sleep, cooking dinner, ironing etc all these things will help ease the mum into motherhood and allow her to enjoy those first few weeks bonding with the baby instead of worrying about chores.

TIME TO SETTLE IN

Having family and friends around you to help is good but when the mother first returns home from hospital she and her close family ( husband, older kids) need some days to settle into their new role as parents,for the siblings to get to bond with their new sibling and to also try and get into some type of routine with the baby. Having a new baby in the house can be exciting and scary at the same time so having that time to get used to the new born before you get visitors round is much needed.

I hope you find this information helpful.

Do you have any essential gifts for new mums? what would you have wanted as a new mum?

Love Me x

WHAT WE MOTHERS EXPECT ON MOTHER’S DAY VS WHAT ACTUALLY HAPPENS

Being a mum is one of those life roles which your never really taught how to be or be ready for, you just quite frankly wing it everyday and you hope that everything goes well and you don’t lose your mind in the process lol.

When i become a mum i thought “ok i have this little human that i have to think for, keep alive and educate about life, how hard could it be” and boy was i wrong lol.

I was not ready for the amount of stuff babies need!, the sleepless nights ( which i didn’t mind in the beginning as they are just soooo cute and cuddly), the constant worry when they are ill ( i legit stayed away for a few days when they got their first cold as i thought they would not be able to breath), the tantrums in public oh how i wished the floor would open up and swallow me coz the way people look at you like your the worst parent ever.

Carrying and bringing a human being into the world is the most amazing, scariest, nerve racking thing i have ever done in my life but also being a mum is the most fulfilling thing i have ever done in my life.

My first mother’s day i did not know what to expect so i just went with the flow. My hubby bought me a card, a teddy bear (which i still have) and some chocolates which was lovely. As the years have gone on, my babies give me cards which they have made at school but the husband forgets about it half of the time.

So in the perfect world i would love to have a lay in, have breakfast brought to me in bed, have the house to myself and just relax for the day. The reality is that i don’t have a lay in i normally wake up as normal to sort the kids breakfast and if hubby remembers the day then he will make us breakfast and then that’s mother’s day for me.

Though not alot goes on for me on mother’s day i am grateful that i got a chance to be a mum to 4 beautiful, healthy babies and i have a husband who love me and my babies. It’s not always about presents ( though they are nice lol) but more of time spent together. So on that note happy Mother’s day to all you fabulous mamas and enjoy your day.

What do you get up to on mother’s day? How do you other halves celebrate you?

Love Me x

It’s lonely being a twin mum

Heyyyyyy guys hope you are all well. So first of all being a mum is one of them most rewarding and beautiful thing that can happen to a woman, carrying a human being and giving birth to it is the biggest blessing we woman can ever have. Being a mum can be a lonely time especially in the first year when they are still little. When you first have your baby everyone is visiting you, helping and wanting to carry that tiny, precious human but as time goes by people don’t come round or call as much to check on you, especially if you have friends who don’t have kids yet.

When i had my first born i was leaving in a place where i did not know anyone so i was really lonely and i kept myself indoors most of the time till hubby came home and we would go out for a walk or something.  For my second pregnancy we had moved near my family so i had support but i also did not want to feel like burden for them so i decided to try the mother and baby play groups to try and make some new friends as we were still new to this area and boy i was wrong. I felt so alienated that i only managed to go a few times and never went back. When i first walked in i got the smirky smiles from some mums and that’s was it so i found a spot and got some toys for my boy to play with and we were not even their for a an hour and i just wanted to leave. It felt like i was back in secondary school where everyone had their own gang of friends and nobody wanted to know me or be my friend.

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I actually tried another group and it was the same and having spoken to some of my friends i found out it wasn’t just me who experienced this kind of behavior. I really don’t know why  we women feel the need to put down another woman to feel good about ourselves especially when your a new mum it’s a trying time and need all the help and mum friends you can find.

Since i had the twins i decided i would not go to the mum baby groups because of the experience i had and also because i have 2 babies to watch which will be difficult and over whelming. For example if i wanted to take them to a massage class i would not be able to do it as i only have two hands ans what if they both started crying then everyone would be staring at me. The only time i went to any mum group was when i first went to take the twins to be weighed, i only went a few times and most of the time they cried because they did not want to be naked or cold bless em but there was a health visitor who would take one while i sorted one and she has become a goof friend of mine and because she know the struggle i have with getting them weighed she comes to my house to this day to weigh them which am so grateful for.

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I will forever by grateful for these twin babies but it doesn’t mean it’s not difficult. When i go to pick my son from school with them ( this is somewhat the only times i take them out by myself) i get anxious and scared thinking they might both start crying and i won’t be able to cope, sometimes people just stare which used to bother me but i know they are just in awe of me having two babies. I used to talk to my friends at the school gate for about 20 minutes or so but i don’t really do this anymore, i just drop my son off and am back home till pick up. I have actually tried to find twin baby groups in my area but there seems to not be any which is not nice.

I know this time when they are little goes by so fast and am taking it in as much as i can but i wish i knew some twin mums that i can hang out with and not have to be stuck indoors all the time.

Are you a twin or multiple mum?  how did you meet other twin mums?

Love Me x

HOW TO GET 9 MONTHS OLD BABIES TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT

Heyyyyy guys hope you are all doing well, so the twins have started sleeping through the night! Yayyyyyyyy us. So babies start sleeping through the night at different ages, there is no one set age for them to sleep through the night so don’t worry if your baby does not sleep through the night yet, they will get there. I know it’s better said than done when your sleep deprived but you will get there.

I had started to feel anxious as some of the twin mums on the facebook group am on had said their babies had been sleeping through the night from about 5 months! So i started thinking am i doing something wrong? Why aren’t mine sleeping through the night?. I thought once they started eating solids they would automatically sleep through the night but boy was i wrong lol. They kept waking up at around 11ish for a bottle which was the time i would go bed so it meant me going bed around 12ish :-(.

So recently i was talking to one of my girlfriends who has a baby a few months older than mine and she said she gives her a feed before bed and that keeps her sleeping through the night which i did but i did it straight after their dinner but they would not finish it so for some reason i though let’s try having dinner then bath and then bottle so they get a little break in between and guess what? it worked! I even give them more milk which they finish so now they don’t wake up for feeds anymore.

I think where i was going wrong is giving them milk straight after dinner because i thought they might be thirsty but i guess they just needed a little break.

This might not work for everyone but try different routines like maybe give them milk before their bath. You never know it might be an unusual routine but if it works and get’s them to sleep through the night? Then your winning.

I hope this helps all those parents struggling with those night feeds and let me know if you try it and if it helped you.

Do you have any other tricks you use for a baby to sleep through the night?

Love Me x

Allowing yourself to change

Heyyyyy guys so i have been MIA for a abit because i have had alot going on, those who don’t know i have two 9 months old twins who keep me busy but one has not been well so i had to concentrate on my baby.

So during this unplanned little break i started thinking about how i can make my vlogs and blog posts better because am all about change and providing good content.

So my vlog channel was started because i wanted to record my family life and share it with the world and i have done this for the last 3 years now but since the twins were born i don’t venture out much by myself because it’s not easy being out with two 9 months babies so i normally just drop my older children to school and get back home which doesn’t leave much to vlog.

My blog has always been about fashion, beauty and lifestyle which i loved and enjoyed doing but i wanted to focus on topics am really passionate about and i have decided to focus on fashion (specifically affordable fashion) as am a sucker for it lol and lifestyle which includes motivation posts because we all need a little push and motivational words sometimes.

I will be doing OOTD posts but they will not all be new garments but more of how i have put my day outfit together which will also be on my YouTube channel, am not sure about how often i will be uploading but i will work on it as i go.

I am excited about the new direction of my blog/vlog and i hope you don’t mind the new change and you will continue to enjoy the content.

Love Me x

8 tips on how to enjoy Notting Hill Carnival

So Notting Hill carnival is happening this weekend and it’s the biggest street party in Europe so everyone turns up even people fly in just for it so it’s kind of a big deal. There are those who are attending the event for the first time and so they don’t know what to expect or know the area so these tips are to help them out and make sure they have a safe, funfilled time.

1. Wear the right shoes

Ok so I know we girls like to look all cute and fab and we should but at this carnival, leave the heels at home and the sandals, I learnt the hard way. First of all the journey from where the carnival starts to where it finishes is so long! And then you have people stepping all over your feet….. it’s just not worth putting your feet through that pain because trust me those heels will not stay on for long unless your going to take a pair of trainers too then you go girl lol.

2. Plan your journey

If this is your first time you might want to start your journey abit early so you give yourself time to get there as some train station will be closed and also to try and avoid the massive queues at the stations due to the amount of people who will be travelling to the carnival. I would also say not to drive because you will not find parking and you don’t want to leave with parking ticket after having such a good time.

3. Have your essentials

Make sure your have pocket tissues as the loos might run out of it, actually no they WILL run out of it. Don’t forget your money and try to avoid taking your bank cards and just take cash instead as it’s safer and finding a cash machine will be an issue and there will probably be queues of people using them.

Make sure you have a bottle of water to stay hydrated and also apply and take your sunscreen (hopefully the sun is out #Englandweather) and don’t forget to get the carnival route map so you know where your going.

4. Meet in advance

Make sure you meet your friends before the carnival starts because once it begins you will have a hard time finding each other as the flow of the crowd tends to go one way and some of the roads will be closed so going back will be difficult. Also make sure you have you phones with you incase you get separated and need to contact each other.

5. Get a good spot

This is where getting there early will help, if you want to see the parade in it’s full glory the best spot is near the judges. But if you want to get close to the parade and feel the vibe the best place is along the main route.

6. Eat the food

Omg you will be spoilt for choice because the amount of Caribbean food that will be there is going to be crazy. There will be Jerk chicken, rice and peas, patties, salt fish, goat curry…..so go hungry and ready to feast.

7. After parties

There are surely going to be alot of after parties once the carnival is done so if you still up for more check out this site for venues https://www.timeout.com/london/clubs/notting-hill-carnival-warm-up-and-after-parties (NOT SPONSORED)

8. STAY SAFE

And last but not least stay safe!, make sure you stay with your friends as there is safety in numbers, do not consume things you don’t know, stay alert and aware of pickpockets and if you feel worried or unsafe tell a police officers, they will be everywhere so you should not have an problem finding one.

I hope these tips are helpful and I hope you have a brilliant time at the Notting Hill Carnival 2018! Woahhhhh

Love Me x

Thank you for 50! Followers

Heyyyy guys I know this might seem small or unimportant to some people but I want to say thank you! to all those that follow my blog.

50 followers may seem small but not to me I don’t even think I have 50 friends lol. I have had my blog for 3 years this year and at one point I stopped posting content because I got de-motivated and disheartened because I was looking at other people’s following growing and mine wasn’t and I did not like it or think people were interested in what I had to say but I came back from having my twin babies more motivates than ever and I am putting in work and it’s paying off.

I am really gratefully for you guys because it tell’s me that my content is good and it’s helpfully to some people out there.

People keep saying that the blogging world is dead or dying but I don’t think it is, it’s just going through changes and am going to be one that sticks with it because I actually love doing it.

I love doing research into different topics and learning new things which am able to pass onto you.

Once again thank you guys for following my blog I really appreciate it, thank you for taking the time to read it and don’t forget to leave me a comment letting me know what you think of the content I produce and you can also share with your family and friends.

Love me x

Scared of failure

The fear of failure is something we all experience sometimes in our lives and it’s something non of us want to experience but we don’t get to chose if we get it or not, no matter how much we try and fight it if it’s going to happen it will happen.

If you fail sometime in your life whether it’s once or 100 times you have to remember to get back up and try again. You have to give yourself time to moan that failure, cry over it and figure out where you wenvt wrong then get back up and push on.

Failure is apart of life and it’s something we work hard to never experience but it’s there to stop us if we are about to make a mistake and it forces us to start again. We will never understand failure in the beginning because we are so angry and upset but when we succeed and look back we are thankful for that failure because it taught us something.

During my university studies I failed one of my modules and I had to do it all over again before continuing to my second year. It was an exam and I am so rubbish at revising as I can’t seem to be able to recall what I have crammed so when I had to resit it I had to attend class all over again and I was so angry as it was holiday time.

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Celebrating the little achievements in life

Achievements can be seen differently by different individuals. Some people see achievements as graduating university others see achievements as being able to get through the day.

We all are different and go through different struggles in life but we need to remember to not belittle ones achievements because we don’t know what they had to go through to get to that happy point.

It is perfectly fine to be used to celebrating the big things that happen in life because thats what we are used to but we need to celebrate the small things too. For me I celebrate when am able to go to bed and all my house work is done, I know it might sound silly but I pride myself in leaving my house clean ready for the next day. I also celebrate when am able to cook a meal for my family because having 6 months old twins that need attention and trying to cook is a task in itself, but am able to do it sometimes other times I can’t.

Being able to make an Instagram post everyday make’s me happy because that’s the goal I set myself as well as publishing a blog post 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes I don’t post at all which makes me angry with myself but sometimes I can’t because there are other things going on in my life that come first before the blog.

We need to be able to celebrate our families and friend’s achievements no matter how small or big they are, if they feel it’s an achievement then it’s an achievement because they know what they had to go through, we should not try to question or understand their reasoning because that can cause them to feel insecure and question their achievements.

So let’s all celebrate our achievements, big ones and especially the small ones because those small ones can mean the most to us with out realising.

What have you achieved today? Let me know in the comment section below.

Love Me x